We were in a long-distance relationship so I came out over the phone. After I told him, he went completely silent. I couldn’t see his facial expression nor did I know what he was thinking or feeling. I started to worry and wondered if this truth would end our relationship. After a while, he said he needed some time to think and ended the call. After a day or two, he called and asked me a lot of things in detail; it seemed like he did his research on bisexuality. In retrospect, I felt bad for my partner because he had to learn so much in those couple of days. After talking for a while, I asked him:
- So how do you feel now?
- Honestly, I see no issue with this, I just wanted to know if you still love me.
- Yes, I do.
- Alright, that’s the most important thing I needed to know. As for the rest… we’ll just let it be.
His biggest concern was that one day I might go back to liking girls. It took a while to explain everything for him to understand, but once he got it, he was alright. It has been almost 8 years since we’ve been in a long-distance relationship but we felt strong because we can be fully honest and accept our whole selves.
Rồi Sẽ Ổn Thôi (“Gonna Be Alright”) is a project that collects coming out stories from the LGBTIQ+ community and their loved ones in Việt Nam. To find out more details or to read more stories from the project, please visit our official social media site on Instagram at ComingOutVN.